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My name is Daniel Black.
I’m a husband, father, weekend warrior, and writer. According to my sons I’m also the tallest, smartest, strongest, and fastest man in the world.
Ok, I’ll admit, I’m probably none of those things. Let’s not tell my boys just yet though.
All kidding aside – the reason you’ve found yourself on this site is because of something I wrote that caught your attention.
Regardless of how you arrived here or where you came from, chances are that you and I are alike in a lot of ways. Maybe you’re not the tallest, smartest, strongest, or fastest man in the world like me 🙂 , but we still have a lot in common anyway. Sure, we come from different backgrounds and cultures but the fact is that all of us men are wired the same.
This site is primarily geared toward men who are seeking to become better men. This site is for men who are tired of fighting the fight but still getting nowhere.
You Were Meant For More Than This
You and I both have a burning desire for our lives to be meaningful and to leave a legacy for those we care about.
Even so, most of us struggle to find our way in this world. How can we leave our mark when we can’t even figure out how to succeed? Many struggle their whole lives, never finding the answers.
And, almost every guy faces this key problem at some point in his life. We plod through life just trying to get by – just trying to make a living. Somewhere along the way all the dreams we had when we were young are lost or forgotten. They’re put up on a shelf to collect dust just like our old sports trophies.
Then It Happens
But then something happens when we least expect it…something traumatic that makes us pause and re-evaluate our lives. And we see a brief spark of the dreams we once imagined.
Maybe a loved one passes away and we begin to reflect on our own life. Or maybe your child says something to you like mine did. Something along the lines of “I wish you could stay home from work and play with me just one day this week.”
And you suddenly realize that your life is not really your own.
You suddenly realize that the path you’ve been following hasn’t brought you any of the things you really wanted out of life.
We’ve been taught that going to school, getting college degrees and paying our dues at work are supposed to lead to success and happiness.
Our daily programming (popular culture, education, etc.) tells us that if we just follow the rules we will be happy in our circumstances.
If you aren’t happy in your 9-5 job with an average home in the average neighborhood, something must be wrong with you, right?
But the truth is really sad, if you allow yourself to dwell on it for just a moment.
What Is The Truth?
You drag yourself out of bed each morning after hitting the snooze button a couple of times.
You curse other drivers as you fight traffic headed to a place you don’t really want to go.
You arrive at work to battle people/projects/processes and hating the whole of it.
You sit through boring meetings where nothing is really decided and everyone talks to impress one another.
You try your best, but you cannot find any real meaning in the work you’re doing.
You finally leave at 5, or 6, or maybe 7 or 8, depending on your workload.
You come home mentally exhausted, and then you have nothing left to give your family.
You end up drowning your misery by tuning into hours of television each night…
…or, _____________ (fill in your own avoidance mechanism here).
The next morning you wake up to do it all over again, with no hope for change in sight.
Is this your situation?
Someone famous once said “Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result – that’s the definition of insanity.”
What’s A Guy To Do?
Sure, you make enough in your job to be comfortably satisfied, but don’t you want more out of life than just comfort and satisfaction?
Is this all there is to life?
Most men don’t even realize that they are really slaves to their way of life.
“What do you mean?” you might ask.
If you quit/lost your job today, what would happen to your home and all your other possessions?
(Please note: Everything I’m writing comes from personal experience. I’m not beating you up since I have lived it too)
See, you don’t really own your stuff – your stuff owns you.
If you didn’t think you had to have those possessions you could get by on less income.
I’m not saying you should make less income. What I am saying is that the percent of your income that is dedicated to acquiring and maintaining your possessions is probably out of whack (if you’re like the average American male).
Here’s a quick test for you – if you have a garage, can you actually park your car inside, or is it full of stuff you seldom use? In you can, congrats! You are in the minority. Think about this for a second. Your car is probably your second most valuable purchase, but because you have so much junk, your car sits out in the elements.
For those of you who don’t have a garage, take a quick survey of the stuff in your extra bedrooms, or, on a smaller scale, take a look at the closets in your home. How many of the items in your extra bedrooms/closets do you use regularly?
Almost none of them? That’s what I thought.
To follow this logic to its conclusion, by extension, your job owns you because without it, you wouldn’t be able to keep the stuff. Because of your addiction to stuff, you can’t afford to make a change in your job situation.
You earn just enough to stay above your bills and debts, but not enough to walk away from that job and do your own thing.
Doesn’t that make you a slave to the job?
Listen; I’m not minimizing the need to have a job and make money. And I’m not saying that having money or owning stuff is evil.
I just want you to realize that when you put things and stuff first in your life you tend to lose sight of your real priorities – your life’s purpose.
In defense of your job, you might say, “Oh, but I have a pension/retirement to look forward to.” Really?
How many people did we hear about who lost half or more of their investments during the stock market’s freefall in 2008?
I have an uncle and aunt who worked two jobs each for their whole lives and saved and invested as much as possible. The 2008 crash washed away one half of their savings. One half! Vanished!
That was half of 30 years’ worth of earnings from four jobs. Gone like a puff of smoke.
Needless to say, their retirement plans were also cut in half, and honestly, after working two jobs during their most productive years, they were not in great health.
They’ve lived since 2008 watching their pennies, scaling back on the plans they had been making for that whole 30 years and wishing they had just enjoyed life a little more along the way.
Update added: My uncle just died last month, so I’ve really been pondering the futility of following that plan for my life lately.
Do you really think you should trade away the best years of your life so that you can finally start living later on – when you’re too old to enjoy it – when your body is too broken down from years of stress from a job you hate?
Where’s the sense in that?
There Is An Alternative…If You’re Courageous Enough To Consider It
Why can’t you have your slice of heaven now?
Freedom to travel?
Freedom to pursue your passions?
Freedom to spend time with family?
Freedom to blaze a different path with your career?
Freedom to do whatever it is that lights your fire?
But, But, But…
Oh yeah – reality slaps you in the face again. You’re thinking, “Between family and work, I don’t have time to pursue anything else.”
If you keep reading my posts, you’ll see that these ‘reasons’ are really just excuses brought on by your fears.
It is not impossible. There is an alternative.
What are your fears?
What fears hold you back from going after what you really want?
We all experience fear, every one of us.
Having fear doesn’t make us any less manly.
Real men have the courage to keep fighting in spite of their fear.
And that ability to face our fear is what determines whether we will live as real men…
…or if we’ll just endure life with a constant nagging feeling of desperation twisting in our gut. If you live each day just trying to get by, ignoring that feeling in your gut eventually the ‘true’ you will begin to fade away and you’ll become a shell of who you were supposed to be.
Will you fight, or will you fade?
As for me; I do believe that joy can be found to be in the journey. You don’t have to wait until you’re retired to do what you want. But, it all depends on what path you’re currently on.
You’re going to need to create a new path to find your freedom.
This is a long introduction isn’t it?
Most guys don’t have the patience to read more than a few words. We live in a twitter tainted world where people want a quick hit.
The fact that you’ve read this far tells me you’re different.
I’m betting that you bothered to read this far because you’re interested in finding out how to change the course of your life and create your own pathway to freedom.
There’s simply too much to cover in this introductory message and I’ve gone too long already, but I’m not going to leave you hanging. I’ve provided links at the end of this article that will help you to start answering these burning questions for yourself.
For now, I’ll at least give you the first hint.
It starts with living your life as a true man.
My desire is that this blog would cause you to reconsider what it means to be a real man.
Real men don’t sit around and wait for someone to rescue them. No, instead a true man will decide what he wants, roll up his sleeves and get to work building his own reality.
Real men make their own pathway to freedom – they make their own reality.
My goal is to inspire you to put a plan in place that will allow you reach your true potential and become the man you were intended to be.
- Are you restless in your current situation? Do you ever feel stuck there but just can’t see a way out?
- Are you a man who wants to build something?
- Are you afraid others might call you crazy for some of your ideas?
- Are you ready to stop accepting your life the way it is?
- Do you look at your situation and think to yourself that there has to be something better out there?
- Are you ready to challenge your current thinking patterns?
- Are you ready to make a change in your current situation?
- Are you ready to break through the barriers that hold you back?
If you answered yes to any of these, then guess what? You ARE just like me after all.
I’m honored that you’ve taken time to read my words.
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