This is a follow-up to On Father’s Day – A Father’s Advice to His Sons
Okay — I’ve got some bad news for you.
In case you didn’t know, your manhood is under serious attack.
With the constant attacks by feminism for the past 40 years or so, modern men are being shortchanged.
Feminism might have started out with noble goals, but over the years it has morphed into something unrecognizable.
Men Are Idiots
Almost every television show or advertisement portrays the dad as an idiot and his wife as his intellectual superior.
Even when men on television attempt to be noble, they are portrayed as if they are morons.
This is not by accident.
In today’s culture it is sin to present a man actually acting like, well…like men should.
Young boys grow up these days ashamed to act like the men they were meant to be.
Effeminate or metrosexual men are constantly paraded in front of us as the new ideal.
Listen – You can be whatever you want to be. It doesn’t affect me either way.
What I object to is the insistence that the time-tested, traditional role of manhood is outdated or is somehow wrong – or that being a real man is detrimental to women.
Absolutely nothing could be further from the truth.
Real men are timeless
I’ll promise you this – any man who sticks to the time tested model for manhood will stand out from the crowd – because there will be so few like him.
It has been and always will be true – women will flock to a real man. Women will always be drawn to a man who is not afraid to be true to himself. And other men will secretly wish they could be like him.
But there is a growing chorus who cannot stand for men to be men.
They believe that when a man is ‘allowed’ to be strong it makes others weak, so they do everything they can to tear men down.
A person can only be made to look weak if they are, in fact, weak.
In truth, if you are a strong person, another person’s strength doesn’t affect you.
It doesn’t make you weak to recognize or acknowledge another person’s strength.
By the same token, in spite of what popular culture teaches, with deliberate, committed work, you can become whatever you want to be, and that includes being a strong man – being a true man.
Since that sort of man seems to be in such short supply these days, I sat down and scribbled out a list of the traits that I believe make a true man.
Here’s my list, in no particular order.
A TRUE MAN:
STANDS UP for himself and for his principles.
PROTECTS and provides for his own. He does not back down when his friends or loved ones are in danger.
TAKES RESPONSIBILITY for his own actions. If he fails he doesn’t blame anyone else.
VALUES INTELLIGENCE AND PHYSICAL STRENGTH equally – A true man develops a sound mind through lifelong study and a strong body through vigorous activity.
UNDERSTANDS THE VALUE OF DIPLOMACY – He reduces conflict when possible as long as the issue does not counter his principles. He uses intelligence to speak to his adversaries with diplomacy if at all possible, but, failing that see the next item.
FAVORS ACTION OVER WORDS
CONTROLS HIS EMOTIONS and his reactions at all times (especially when dealing with his adversaries).
IS SUPREMELY CONFIDENT – believes he can do all things, but recognizes when he needs help and isn’t afraid to ask. Recognizes his fears and moves forward in spite of them.
ACTS DECISIVELY when required, but bases decisions on experience and/or advice from others who have experienced the same situation whenever possible.
DOESN’T WALLOW in misery when life trips him up. Picks himself up and keeps going even when he doesn’t feel like it.
IS TRANSPARENT – A true man does not play with another person’s emotions. He always makes sure his intentions are clear.
As you read the items listed above, did you find yourself agreeing and wishing you had these traits?
Take some time right now to imagine how your life might be different if you started acting according to these ideals.
Instead of just imagining, here’s my advice to you – copy this list to a piece of paper that you can keep with you at all times.
I encourage you to rewrite this list and the definitions in your own words so that you can better identify with them.
Read these each morning when you get up. Internalize these traits so that they become part of your character.
If you can make them a part of your character you’ll be able to act instinctively without having to over analyze the situations you face.
Whether you agree or disagree with my list, take a second to tell me about it in the comments.